1 Peter 3: 1-7 – Does Your Marriage Reflect the Gospel?

by Kathy

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Read 1 Peter 3:1-7

I have been married for 33 years and with each passing year I love my husband more and more.   I could go on and on about my sweet man, how much I love being married to him, and hopefully express ways our marriage reflects God Himself living within us.   In addition to this wonderful marriage we have, it is important for me to say it doesn’t look like this without a whole lot of living out the words “submission” and “respect” towards each other.  There are many times that we fail at it.  However, I thank God for His grace and mercy that continues to draw our hearts to where they need to be!

We are all fallen people in a very fallen world, which will cause the marriage of two sinners to be hard and messy from time to time.  Marriage requires for each and everyone of us to be intentional each and everyday.  We must intentionally give grace to each other.  We must purpose to seek and offer forgiveness whenever it is needed.  We must be make it a priority to pursue each other daily.  Honestly, you and I cannot do any of this very well without first pursuing a personal relationship with the Lord everyday…reading His Word, talking to Him, allowing Him to make us look a little more like Him everyday!

In 1 Peter, we see God showing us what He wants our marriages to look like.  To both husbands and wives,  God says to lay down your lives for one another.  The wife is instructed to be submissive – to cooperate voluntarily and come under the man’s leadership.  The husband is instructed to respect his wife – to honor and cherish her.  When we are obedient to these commands, God strengthens and blesses our marriage.

I would like to encourage you today to stop for a moment and read 1 Peter 3:1-7.  As you do, ask God to show you how He wants you to specifically live out the commands mentioned.  Even though I have been married for 33 years, I still have to be very intentional in taking time to evaluate the status of our marriage – and more importantly the status of my heart with our marriage.

Here are some questions that I asked myself after reading this passage.  Perhaps they will help you too!

Do my actions show my desire to first submit to the Lord and then to my husband?  Do I respond to my husband in a gentle way?  Does my attitude and actions create disturbances in my relationship with my husband? Does my conduct witness powerfully to my  husband for or against the gospel?  Do I spend as much time working on my relationship with my husband as I spend thinking about and working on my outward appearance, my clothes, my hair style, my accessories? Do people observe in me a desire to faithfully live according to God’s pattern or my own?  Do I exhibit strength and control, avoiding panic and fear, when experiencing difficult situations?

You may even want to sit down with you spouse and go through these questions together, discussing ways you can make improvements, holding each other accountable and praying together.

These questions keep me pressing on, seeking to let the Lord continue His ongoing work in me.  As I think about the journey of my marriage, I am so thankful for the God’s promise found in this verse:

1 Thessalonians 5:23-24 –

May God Himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through.

May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our

Lord Jesus Christ.  The One who calls you is faithful and He will do it.

As we submit every aspect of our life to Him, God will be faithful to make us progressively more like Him.   This overflows in waves of blessings in our marriages.

Have a grace full week honoring God in your marriage ~

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